The Holy Father Pope Francis announced the start of the Amoris Laetitia Family Year on March 19, 2021, the fifth anniversary of his signing of the post-synodal apostolic exhortation Amoris laetitia (“The Joy of Love”), which centers on the love in the family. The 15-month celebration, which encourages “each person to be a witness of family love” (Catholic News Agency, 2021), will end on June 26, 2022 at the 10th edition of the World Meeting of Families in Rome.
In celebration of the Amoris Laetitia Family Year, Universitas is republishing the excerpts below from the editorial column of UA&P co-founder Dr. Bernardo M. Villegas, which was first published on September 24, 2020 in Manila Bulletin. The full article can be read here.
The family is the first line of defense of society against COVID-19. The universal admonition coming from the authorities from all over the world is for individuals to “stay home.”
Home for the vast majority of human beings is where the family is. This should not come as a surprise to anyone who has reflected on the strong foundation of every society. As has been repeatedly stressed by the Roman Pontiffs, where the family goes, society goes. It is only in the family that a person is valued simply for being the person he is. Quoting from a college textbook on “Conjugal Communion” by Fr. Caesar Santos, et al.: “In contrast to any other social group a man can belong to, it is in the family where a person is valued radically or exclusively for being himself. In other social groupings, man is valued because of the function he fulfils. Because of this, he is replaceable as a member of the group. Should he neglect his responsibilities—or become incapable of fulfilling them—another person is put in his stead, and the group functions as before. A person is irreplaceable, by contrast, as a family member. He is valued in his uniqueness as a person.”
In a Message to the First Latin American Congress on the Pastoral Care of the Family in Panama City, Pope Francis stressed the importance of the family as a center of love: “Over and above its most pressing problem and its peremptory necessities, the family is a ‘center of love’, where the law of respect and communication reigns and is able to resist the pressure of manipulation and domination from the world’s ‘power centers.’ In the heart of the family, the person naturally and harmoniously blends into a human group overcoming the false opposition between the individual and society…. In the bosom of the family, no one is set apart; both the elderly and the child will be welcome here. The culture of encounter and of dialogue, openness to solidarity and transcendence, originates in the family…. For this reason, the family constitutes a great and ‘rich social resource’. In this sense, I would like to highlight two primary factors – stability and fruitfulness.”
Whatever earthshaking changes may result from the coronavirus that has hit the whole world with a great depression whose depth can only be compared with what the global economy experienced 150 years ago, what continues to be the strong foundation of society and the key to a recovery is the family. The family is the result of the indissoluble union between a man and a woman in a marriage that is open to the transmission of new life and the education of the children resulting from such a union. In fact, a blessing in disguise of the pandemic that has spared no country is the forced lockdown that resulted in families rediscovering the importance of spending a great deal of time with the immediate members of each family and to make up for past negligences and omissions. Especially for Christian families, as St. Josemaría Escrivá, the Saint of Ordinary Life, wrote:
“When I think of Christian homes, I like to imagine them as being full of the light and joy that were in the home of the Holy Family…Every Christian home should be a place of peace and serenity. In spite of the small frustrations of daily life, an atmosphere of profound and sincere affection should reign there together with a deep-rooted calm, which is the result of authentic faith that is put into practice.”
In a predominantly Christian country like the Philippines, the many months of lockdowns that were decreed by the government to prevent the rapid spread of the virus were opportunities for married couples to deepen their realization of the following teachings of St. Josemaría: “Husband and wife are called to sanctify their married life and to sanctify themselves in it. It would be a serious mistake if they were to exclude family from their spiritual development. The marriage union, the care and education of children, the effort to provide for the needs of the family as well as for its security and development, the relationships with other persons who make up the community – all these are among the ordinary human situations that Christian couples are called upon to sanctify….” I would consider the many more opportunities occasioned by the pandemic for married couples to put into practice these teachings of St. Josemaría on the sanctification of marriage and the family as the collateral benefits of an otherwise tragic situation.
The question remains, though, what is the future faced by married couples in the Philippines as regards their obligation to provide for the economic needs of the family as well as for its security and development? Because of the many lockdowns occasioned by the coronavirus with one wave of infection after another, the Philippine economy—in tandem with practically all the countries all over the world—experienced the worst economic depression since the Second World War. More relevant to Filipino families is not the brutal drop of 16.5 percent in Gross Domestic Product that the economy suffered in the second quarter of 2020 but the very high rate of unemployment that went from just over 5% before the pandemic to over 17% by the end of the first semester and is expected to rise to 20% before the year is over. This means that over 7 million Filipinos have lost their jobs since the pandemic began. The poverty incidence that was already down to 16% in 2019 (from more than 20% at the beginning of the Duterte presidency) is expected to rise once again to over 20% as a result of the rise in unemployment. This means that more than 4 million families will be struggling to put body and soul together as they face dehumanizing conditions of poverty, especially in the rural areas. The worst victims are the small farmers, landless farm workers, sustenance fisherfolk, and members of indigenous tribes. Add to these the informal settlers in urban areas whose sources of livelihood have dried up because of the various lockdowns. These are the families who have to be the first target of social amelioration and small business wage subsidy programs of the government and philanthropic or social responsibility work of business enterprises and civil society.
Most Filipino families are headed by relatively young people below the age of forty. The young and growing population of the Philippines is one of the major reasons why our country is considered by many outside independent think tanks and institutions to be among the fastest to recover from the economic depression brought about by the pandemic. It is providential that Filipino couples have generally been spared the contraceptive mentality prevalent in many developed countries today and have maintained our fertility rate above the zero population growth level of 2.1 babies per fertile woman. The average Filipino family still has about 3 children. This is one of the reasons that the economy can quickly rebound once the pandemic is put under control, say within the next two years. A large and growing population (and in our case English speaking) is a great advantage in a world where practically all developed countries are suffering from rapid ageing and are in need of workers to supplement their own labor forces to take care of their numerous senior citizens.
Another economic advantage derived from a young and growing population is the stimulus it gives to domestic consumption, which in the case of the Philippines accounts for more than 70 percent of our GDP. In fact, over the last ten years our GDP growth of over 6 percent per annum has been mainly propelled by our 110 million (and growing) population spending on a wide range of consumer goods and services. Unlike many of our East Asian neighbors, we are not heavily dependent on exports for our GDP growth. Even when the whole world is suffering from a recession (as in 1997 to 1999 and 2008 to 2012), our GDP can still grow reasonably fast since our businesses have a large market to which to sell. That is why as long as we can put a limit to the number and degree of the lockdowns occasioned by the pandemic which will allow Filipino consumers to start spending on more than the basic of food, shelter and clothing, our consumption-driven growth will resume. Together with the stimulus packages from the Government and resumed investments from both domestic and foreign businesses, we can return to the 6 to 7 percent growth path by 2022. In fact, growth rates of 7 to 9 percent are possible if we are able to address with some degree of success the growth dampeners, such as very low agricultural productivity, obstacle to doing business put up by national or local government agencies, corruption and poor governance, very high electricity rates, poor internet connections and shortage of technical skills (due to the obsession with a college diploma of most parents and their children).
The misallocation of our abundant human resources as evidenced by a shortage of technical skills, such as those in construction, highlights the importance of enlightened parents’ participation in the choice of careers, occupations or professions by their children. This brings up the whole issue of how the pandemic has given parents a wider opportunity to be the “first educators” of their children. The long months of lockdowns which enabled parents to spend a great deal more of time, especially with their children below 20 years of age who were among those whose movements were restricted, hopefully have reminded parents at all social levels of what St. Josemaría Escrivá, the modern saint who has taught and written most about marriage and family life, has emphasized about the role of parents in the education of their children. Quoting from an article in the Opus Dei website entitled 14 Questions about the Family, St. Josemaría taught: “The parents are the first people responsible for the education of their children, in human as well as in spiritual matters. They should be conscious of the extent of their responsibility. To fulfil it, they need prudence, understanding, a capacity to love and a concern for giving good example…Imposing things by force, in an authoritarian manner, is not the right way to teach. The ideal attitude of parents lie more in becoming their children’s friends—friends who will be willing to share their anxieties, who will listen to their problems, who will help them in an effective and agreeable way…Being a father or a mother is not simply a matter of bringing children into the world. The capacity for generation, which is a share in the creative power of God, is meant to have a continuation. Parents are called to cooperate with the Holy Spirit in the development of their children into men and women who will be authentic Christians.”
A very important part of being “an authentic Christian” is to use one’s talents and gifts for the common good of society. Hopefully, the five or more months of very close contact of parents with their young children have reopened the eyes of parents on how they can take a more active part in the moral, intellectual, and spiritual formation of their children.
I would consider this opportunity for closer bonding of parents with their children as another blessing in disguise of the pandemic. This enforced confinement, so to speak, in the home has given parents the opportunities to make up for their previous lack of time devoted to their children (because of work and other commitments) and observe more closely the moral virtues and intellectual achievements in which their children can grow more. This greater time spent at home should have given parents clearer ideas on the very important balance between exercising parental authority and educating their children in the proper use of their freedom. Again, St. Josemaría gives the most practical advice about how to make this difficult balancing act that has bothered parents since time immemorial: “I always advise parents to try to be friends with their children. The parental authority which the rearing of children requires can be perfectly harmonized with friendship, which means putting themselves, in some way, on the same level as their children…Children—even those who seem intractable and unresponsive—always want this closeness, this fraternity, with their parents. It is a question of trust. Parents should bring up their children in an atmosphere of friendship, never giving the impression that they do not trust them. They should give them freedom and teach them how to use it with personal responsibility…It is better for parents to let themselves ‘be fooled’ once in a while, because the trust that they have shown will make the children themselves feel ashamed of having abused it—they will correct themselves. On the other hand, if they have no freedom, if they see that no one trusts them, they will always be inclined to deceive their parents.”
This greater involvement parents as the first educators will actually be heightened by the “new normal” in education resulting from the pandemic. Until face-to-face classes can be held again (which may still be in the first quarter of 2021), formal education at all levels will be delivered through distance learning. A great deal of learning even of the youngest children will have to happen at home either through digital means or through learning modules that will be distributed to the students. At least at the primary and secondary levels, the parents cannot shirk their responsibility of assisting their children adapt to this new normal in the educational process. Parents will have to take more seriously the various seminars that will be sponsored by the schools in which their children are enrolled about the nature of blended learning. No matter how busy they are in both their professional occupations and household work, both parents must participate in some form of home schooling. They will have to acquire a minimum understanding of what synchronous and asynchronous online sessions, the Canvas learning management system and other learning modalities are all about. Fortunately, some of the educational institutions that are leading in the transition to on-line distance learning, such as the schools of the Affordable Private Education Centre (APEC) founded by the Ayala group and the Far Eastern University, are actively educating parents on how they can assist their children at home in making the most out of this new normal in the delivery of formal education at the basic education level.
In terms of the family budget, a larger percentage will have to be devoted to improving internet connections for those who can afford them and to constantly upgrade such digital devices as smartphones, laptops, desktops and other items I foresee a shift of family expenditures from such non-basic items such as eating out, foreign traveling, lavish celebrations like those during weddings, anniversaries, graduations, birthdays, etc. towards requirements of the new normal, e.g., digital tools and services. In fact, there are already anecdotal reports that parents from lower-income households are already bartering poultry and other agricultural products with second-hand smartphones and other digital devices so that they their children will be able to participate in the blended learning that even the public schools are obliged by the circumstances to adopt. Especially for those households at the middle-income level, the pandemic has already resulted in a drastic change in consumption patterns. The consumer goods and services that will constitute the bulk of their expenditures will also shift towards pharmaceutical and other products needed for health and wellness, hospital and other medical fees and products and services that will strengthen their immunity not only against COVID-19, which is expected to linger for a long time, but also other types of illnesses.
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